In 1992, almost 30 years ago, Gary Chapman wrote a book titled The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.
The book explores how people have different personalities and with those differences come different views on love.
Chapman identified 5 ways to express AND receive love. I included the 5 ways and examples of each below:
1. Words of Affirmation
Compliments : You have a great voice. You look amazing in that outfit.
2. Acts of Service
Cleaning the house/car/dirty laundry (without being asked)
3. Receiving Gifts
Tickets (sports & shows) / Gift certificates (massage, cleaning services)
4. Quality Time
Take a weekend getaway or schedule a date night
5. Physical Touch
Give one another massages
When working with clients, I suggest they and their partner take the quiz separately, reflect on their results alone, then come together and discuss their results with one another. It’s important to be honest and vulnerable with your partner during this exercise.
Another thing that’s important to note is don’t just take the quiz and move on - reflect on it, write about it, discuss it and then implement it!
Since 1992 they expanded on the populations (outside of couples) for the 5 Love Languages, now including: Family, Singles, Work, Men, Military, Children & Teens