“When you get bit by a snake, you have to suck out all the poison, that’s what I had to do, suck all the poison out of my life.” – Cady Heron (Lindsay Lohan, Mean Girls)
The month of May is here and your body is begging for an Emotional Spring Cleaning. Just as your house can use a cleaning, so can your mind, body and soul. Spring is the season of blooming and rebirth in nature, so why not take a page out of Mother Nature’s book?
What are you emotionally cleaning this Spring? Maybe it is your dead-end job that you need to quit (while not leaving yourself without an emergency fund), or finally organizing your closets like you said you would for the past 8 years but never got around to it, even though every morning is a constant struggle of “where the hell are my good stockings?” and “where is that blue top I wore on my first date with my boyfriend from high school?” (also note to self: THROW OUT THAT SHIRT FROM HIGH SCHOOL…or donate it). Maybe just maybe your relationship needs a Spring cleaning. Quick reminder weeding out the negativity and toxic people in life is important to do no matter the season! Maybe you are you a mother? Or are struggling to build/fix a bond between you and a mother figure? This Emotional Spring Cleaning is for you…and just in time for Mother’s Day. We must be strong in order to take care of ourselves and our loved ones.
We cook and clean for ourselves and our family because we want to take care of them. We clean the house because we don’t want to live in filth. Why not clear your mind so you’re not living in a dirty brain? Why not clean out that negative self-talk? Maybe even clean out that bitch that keeps telling you to grab another cookie…or glass of wine…or cigarette…or another one night stand.
Dave Pelzer said it beautifully in Help Yourself: Finding Hope, Courage, and Happiness “It’s all a matter of weeding out the bad and cultivating more productive thoughts. And just like pulling weeds, you have to get to the root otherwise that weed, the self-doubt, that negative programming, will spring back up and shoke off the flower that can blossom for you in the future. Be consistent. Apply that "weed off" whenever you feel the need. Every day see the brighter side of things. Continually tell yourself how lucky you are, how good your life is right now, and how things can only get better”.
Emotional Spring Cleaning Tips
1. Get rid of any piece of clothing that no longer serves you – same goes for shoes and accessories (example: hold a clothing swap, donate) By getting rid of shit, you are making room for what is purposeful.
2. Write down the top 5 people you spend your time with. Ask yourself, “are they team _____ (insert name here)?” If you’re unsure if they’re on your team, they probably aren’t. You don’t need people like this in your life. That doesn’t mean you need to block their number and never speak to them again (although, that works too sometimes), just slowly start making more time for yourself, and less time for their toxicity.
3. Recognize your negative self-talk. When this occurs, simply jot it down. When you have a moment, evaluate your list of phrases you use when negatively speaking to yourself. Then, next each phrase, write an opposite, loving response. Example, my thighs are so big --> my thighs look great in leggings. Write phrases that you would tell your best friend. Example, I look like a blueberry when I wear the color blue --> I look amazing in red. Changing your thought process is key to changing your life.
"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein